Have you ever felt like youโre the one always checking in on a friend, planning the get-togethers, or doing the emotional heavy lifting in a relationship? Or maybe, with another person, youโre the one who leans on them more. And then comes the thoughtโ ๐ฐ๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐?
Relationships arenโt meant to be perfectly balanced. They are ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ by nature. And thatโs okay!
Think about itโdo your parents expect you to do as much for them as they have done for you? You may never match them, but does that make your bond any less special? While they might still cook for you, you are the one helping them navigate the digital world. Or consider that one friend whoโs always giving life advice while you bring the humour and fun. Would forcing a 50-50 balance make your connection better? Unlikely.
In real life, we receive more in some areas and give more in others. The struggle to make everything "equal" can actually drain relationships rather than strengthen them.
What if we appreciated the flow of give and take instead of keeping score? Some days youโll be the shoulder to cry on, and some days, youโll need one. The beauty of human connection is that itโs dynamic, not a mathematical equation. We often get caught up trying to balance the scales, like meticulously dividing the household chores. But honestly, relationships aren't bank accounts!.
So the next time you catch yourself thinking, ๐ฐ ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐, ๐๐๐๐ ๐ ๐ ๐๐๐๐, take a step back. Are you truly being taken for granted, or is this just the natural rhythm of your bond? Instead of stressing about making everything perfectly symmetrical, letโs ask ourselves a simpler question: "๐จ๐ ๐ฐ ๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐?" Can you live with it without building resentment?
If the answer is yes, then embrace it! Maybe your partner is amazing at fixing things around the house (like that leaky tap!), and you're the master of planning fun movie nights. Then it works
Letโs stop chasing โperfect balanceโ and start embracing the ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ ๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐๐ of our relationships
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