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Learning to Respond to people and situations instead of reacting.
“You are not allowing me to do what I want, you are a mean mom” R1: “How can you call me mean? After I have done so much for you. I am...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 27, 20233 min read
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Smoking and drinking are habits, not a reflection on the character of a person
“My daughter has started smoking and I am really worried” the mother was distraught “What is making you upset about that?” “How can a...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 26, 20232 min read
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Why you cannot be a counsellor to your spouse or family members
People who are trained as counsellors often think they can counsel anyone including their spouse, children or other family members. This...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 25, 20232 min read
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Acceptance Vs Resignation
In counselling and psychology when the term acceptance is used many people think, acceptance means giving up the idea of change. They...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 23, 20232 min read
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Fear/Anxiety is a contagious emotionInoculating ourselves against other people's anxieties
A bunch of monkeys are gorging on fruits in a forest tree. One of the monkeys spots something like a snake and gives a call. All the...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 22, 20232 min read
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Complicated Life - Sometimes this has worked and sometimes that.
There have been times in life when being honest paid off and then there have been times when being honest hurt our interest. There have...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 21, 20232 min read
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What will people think? - A snippet from a philosophical counselling session.
“My daughter wants to marry a boy who is not from our community and I am worried” “That is understandable. What exactly are you worried...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 20, 20233 min read
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Phantom Pain - Experience Pain in the body but nothing wrong with the body
She experienced extraordinary pain in her left leg. She thought she had pulled a muscle or twisted a nerve or something. Some hot pack,...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 17, 20232 min read
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Giving people what they want, not what we think they want.
On the tenth anniversary of his father’s death, he decided to spend some money and give the orphan students something. He bought 30...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 16, 20232 min read
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Giving Help and Receiving Help - One is not superior to the other
There are times in our lives when we are physically okay and can assist someone else physically. Then there are days in our lives when...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 15, 20232 min read
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The importance of TRUST in a relationship
“My dad said he would arrange the finance for my studies abroad. This is the second time has let me down. I don’t trust him anymore. I...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 14, 20232 min read
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All divorced people are not itching to get hitched again
Those who are single in society fall into different categories. Those who never got married (either by choice or for other reasons),...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 13, 20232 min read
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Grey Divorces
I don’t recall the source of the piece of statistics: The fastest-growing age group applying for divorces in Bangalore courts are those...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 10, 20233 min read
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Let us not overdo the gratitude bit
“It is horrible to see the death and desperation in the world due to the pandemic” “Aren’t you grateful that you are not infected?” ***...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 9, 20232 min read
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Praising the wrong things
She prepared hard for the concert. It was not her first, she had already done more than 100 over the years. At this concert, she was...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 7, 20232 min read
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When Seniors die
The average life expectancy has increased steadily over the decades. Today, if you are having the basic comforts of life, no debilitating...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 6, 20232 min read
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“Yet” is a word of immense hope
When conversing with people, we are often asked whether we know some skill or have achieved some milestones of life. “Did you clear your...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 2, 20232 min read
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Parents don’t have to make every moment into a teachable moment and blow away happiness.
I was watching a parent read a bedtime story to a child. The child was enjoying the moment as the parent read the story with a lot of...
Sreedhar Mandyam
Jun 1, 20232 min read
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Action is the antidote to anxiety - Focussing on things in our control
Many things keep happening around us. We can control somethings and most things are not in our control. If we take a look at the year...
Sreedhar Mandyam
May 31, 20232 min read
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Cleaning can be Calming, Peaceful and Healing
Just as he was leaving for his office, she got into a huge argument with him. What started as an innocuous statement, slid into another...
Sreedhar Mandyam
May 30, 20232 min read
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